More things I never understand
Aug. 10th, 2018 03:03 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
osewalrusMy wife made more money than me for the first several years of our marriage (when she was actually working, mind you -- she had issues finding a job due to Shabbos restrictions). I briefly made more when I went into private practice, then plummeted to well below her income when I switched to the non-profit world. Over the years, my salary has increased at a much faster rate (a side effect of her working at a financially failing hospital until Obamacare kicked in), so now I make more money than she does.
It never really mattered for either of us. It all went to the same place -- day school and mortgage. What mattered is we were both blessed to be able to do work we both (for the most part) enjoyed.
But apparently we are total weirdos. According to this piece by the NYTimes, in couples where wives make more than husbands, both partners feel so bad about this they lie about their salaries (men inflate, women deflate). This apparently has lots of other impacts as well.
https://www.nytimes.com/2018/07/17/upshot/when-wives-earn-more-than-husbands-neither-like-to-admit-it.html?fallback=0&recId=18cJXqL3JwxvxIOjJKfAaJl9r90&geoContinent=NA&geoRegion=MN&recAlloc=random&geoCountry=US&blockId=signature-journalism-vi&imp_id=835135452&action=click&module=editorContent&pgtype=Article®ion=CompanionColumn&contentCollection=Trending
Peoples, I do not understand them.
It never really mattered for either of us. It all went to the same place -- day school and mortgage. What mattered is we were both blessed to be able to do work we both (for the most part) enjoyed.
But apparently we are total weirdos. According to this piece by the NYTimes, in couples where wives make more than husbands, both partners feel so bad about this they lie about their salaries (men inflate, women deflate). This apparently has lots of other impacts as well.
https://www.nytimes.com/2018/07/17/upshot/when-wives-earn-more-than-husbands-neither-like-to-admit-it.html?fallback=0&recId=18cJXqL3JwxvxIOjJKfAaJl9r90&geoContinent=NA&geoRegion=MN&recAlloc=random&geoCountry=US&blockId=signature-journalism-vi&imp_id=835135452&action=click&module=editorContent&pgtype=Article®ion=CompanionColumn&contentCollection=Trending
Peoples, I do not understand them.
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Date: 2018-08-12 10:33 pm (UTC)Dani and I have flip-flopped on this over the years too, and it's never been a problem when I'm the higher earner. But we're in the high-tech sector, comfortable, and DINKs, which makes us very different from, say, blue-collar families raising kids and hoping to be able to pay for their schooling. I suspect that article is mostly not about the likes of you and me.